Wednesday, November 2, 2011
Marriage Expirations in Mexico
According to Yahoo News, Mexico City lawmakers study an initiative to introduce marriage licenses that could expire after 2 years, the Catholic Church is denouncing the proposal as an attack on marriage. Read more: http://yhoo.it/vquZgh
Here's my take on it:
Why even get married if you are going to create an "out clause" to end it?
To me, you are going into it with the wrong perspective in the first place. Marriage is a lifetime commitment. And there will be times when it gets hard, and it ain't fun.
You have made an oath to God and to your friends and family to stay care for and love this person.
This man has taken a vow to protect you-- that means he's willing to take a bullet for you and your children.
The same for a wife-- She has taken an oath to God to risk her life bearing your children.
Don't be so quick to give up on each other, just because Marcus in Accounting listens to you whine about your husband.
Trust me, sis. Marcus ain't taking no bullet for you.
When you open a window of opportunity to Marcus, you close the door with your husband.
(Clever, huh? I learned that from watching Jimmy & Karen.)
Listen, if you are single, recognize the difference between wanting to be married, and truly being in love with a person.
Don't get married unless you really are in love and like and respect a person on a friendship level. Romance and looks can fade, and you need to be able to enjoy their personality and have a decent conversation with them. I can't tell you how many times I hear, "I love my spouse, but I hate their ways". If you are married to somebody, but you live two separate lives with your friends, and you gotta keep them from knowing what you really like doing, then it's really not worth it.
You should truly be your spouse's best friend, and vice versa. Someone you would love to kick it with even if there wasn't romance involved.
If it's all about the sex, or money, you are going to be miserable.
Even though you might like different things, you should really have plenty of things in common--- especially when it comes to child rearing, finances, sex, spirituality, conflict resolution, etc. Find someone you really "LIKE" not just love.
Don't get married unless you are willing to take a bullet for them.