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Who Is THE MAN?
THE MAN is anything blocking the way of your destiny.
.... It's basically a circumstance trying ta hold you down.
And those obstacles can take many forms. These are a few of mine.
Monday, December 20, 2010
Book Review: Men Don't Heal, We Ho'
I'm reading this book right now, called "Men Don't Heal, We Ho" by Steven James Dixon. His grammar is all over the place, here is the jist of what he said:
Men will say anything to get a piece of ass
Men who are in a divorce and loved their wife will go through a ho-ing phase
Men will tell you point blank they cant commit and you will still think you can change them
Men cheat on their wives when they stop fantasizing about having sex with her
If a married man gets divorced and really loves his wife, he will always love her
Men are sensitive and do cry, although not often.
Do not get with a man that is still in love with the last girl, they will fuck without letting you into their heart
Women hear what they want to hear
Never try to make a man fall in love with you,especially if he says he cant commit
Men ho to mask pain
Men treat you sweet as vindication, so you can say, that bitch was crazy for leaving you
Interview new prospects, keep your options open, do not date or obsess on one man
Men watch who you hang with as a character analysis of who you are
Build a firm friendship first, so they respect you before they sleep with you
Let them know they are being evaluated, and tell them to do the same
Really listen--- show attention for what they say
Men size you up for financial potential, career goals, family life
Put God first and the man second
Men recognize a ho by her ho-conversations
Men are visual, they do not think about finding a wife when they see you, they only visualize you naked.
When men say "Do you and see others", they are not emotionally connected to you, you are their ho.
Men make sure the girl has at least one cute friend so their boy can hit
Men will invite many prospects to the same party
Do not get into competition over a man, none of you really win
Do not approach men. Men only reserve their mack game for 5- star chicks
Know when you are the rebound
The only reason they marry is for sex and kids
Doing nice things for you means I like you for now, you are cool now, not I want to spend my life with you
5 Success factors: Commitment, Communication, Trust, Respect, Love
Men are broken from their fathers, and they are the only ones that can heal them
Never put all your eggs in one basket, and never give up complete dating power
If a man knows you like him, he has the power to make you wait while he pursues others and will reject you if you make your true feelings known and hes not on the same page
Men like a challenge
Women try to figure out what men mean that to hear what he said. You can either: accept, reject it, or reject and keep the relationship as is until you find better
I cant be in a relationship now= He will never be in a relationship with you
I need to get my money right before we can get married= Im cheating, keeping options open, buying time because you are wifey material
I love you, not in love with you= He doesn't love you, and is surprised that he likes you this much
Its not you, its me= he is not ready, not worthy and not wanting you
Oh, that girl is just a friend= she is just like you
Im going out of town, cant talk until Monday = I have an out of town chick, don't call
I have to work on Valentines day= I'm hiding out at the crib from all of you
I have to find myself=Im fucked up, trying to make you leave, you should have left long time ago
I need a friend=you deserve better
Show off your skills besides sex
Make sure your house is cleaner than his
If you have a good man, quit complaining about how he does chores
Have sex four times a week, and surprise him
Stroke your mans ego
Men don't commit because its too much work and have to give up freedom
Establish upfront that you are a ho, a girlfriend, or a wife type
If you are having a hard time getting a man to commit, you are either, desperate, in denial, or dumb
Men date multiple women because they are in no rush to marry
Do not tell a man you love them, show them: you have to know them well for them to love you, their love has to mean something to you, cherish and make him earn your love
Women will have sex with you before they even cook for you
Do not play games, state you intentions, men are evaluating from day one: Can I break my word with her, what will she put up with, is she the type of woman I can lie to, can I get away with disrespecting her, does she want to believe what I say or is she evaluating me
You cannot gain respect once its lost, move on
Do not listen to his words, they come from his mind, trust your instincts to tell when he's lying
Men keep testing the line until they find your true boundary
Men say they will call back to get off the phone
When we first meet you, we don't care about your character. You are a ho, until you can show skills that promote you to girlfriend. You stay there until you prove you are worth marrying.