Sunday, December 12, 2010
If He Says He's Crazy, Believe Him
Sometimes people are who they say they are. You cannot change them. There is no benefit of the doubt. When someone tells you plainly who they are, you need to believe them.
Because we all come from God, we all have goodness to some degree.
But there are some people that are manipulative. Or lie. Or steal. Or destructive. Or vengeful. Or greedy. Or are lustful. Or envious. There are certain circumstances in life in which the benefit of the doubt is not required. You have been told repeatedly by this person who they are. And you need to let them go.
It's painful to let someone go. Especially when you think they are good people inside. You wanna help. But they won't let you.
A liar will lie about others and will lie to you, too. A lustful person will be that way with others, and with you too. It doesn't matter if you think you are close to them. They are who they are until they decide to change. You cannot change them.
When they tell you plainly who they are, you need to believe them. Because all you will do is hurt yourself trying to help them. God will continue sending you pain from them until you get the message. It is your 'teachable moment', a skill you need to learn to master-- how to allow good people to enter and how to release those that aren’t.
One of the first things I ask a man is, " Tell me about yourself. If I asked your friends to describe you, what would they say about you?"
Within fifteen minutes of hearing a person's story, you have a good idea of who they are.
If they proceed to tell you a story that all his friends think he's crazy, or has a short fuze.... you should really believe him. People like telling their story, and they will be sure and say, "I'm the crazy one of my friends, or the black sheep of my family."
It's simple. When a man tells you who he is, you should believe him.
In fact, thank him for his honesty
That's one for you, zero for THAT MAN!!! LOL.